Saturday, July 31, 2010

생일축하 합니다 Seon-Mi!

Happy 2nd Birthday Zoey!
Saengil Chuhka Hamnida Seon-Mi ah!

Thursday, July 29, 2010

Let's be honest.

I write this post tonight with tears streaming down my face.

I somehow thought that this birthday would be a little easier than the last. But let's be honest, I think it might be a little harder.

"The child was born as a little girl with weight of 2.5kg on July 31, 2008 at 18:38. She is a cute child with clear-cut features. For the better future of the child, the birth mother sincerely hoped to put the child up for adoption. She is promised to grow up as a nice and healthy child if she can be provided with love and concern."

Two years have now passed since this birth mother made probably the hardest decision in her life. And while we celebrate our family of four and prepare for our beautiful daughter's birthday, I cannot help but think of that woman across the world who thinks of this day very differently. I want her to know that I am thinking of her and wishing her peace. This post is to honor her.

It is very clear that for other reasons, Seon-Mi's birth mother is near and dear to my heart as there is yet another woman across the world who has now had 28 birthdays thinking of the daughter she gave birth to.

One thing I was dedicated to during the adoption process was keeping a detailed journal of my feelings and events that were happening as we awaited the arrival of our daughter.

On January 29, 2009, just a little over a month after receiving our referral, this is what I wrote:

"Lately, to pass the time waiting for baby Zoey to come home, I've read a lot of books. One was book about an open adoption, where the birth mother chose the adoptive family from a profile they viewed through an attorney. In each profile was a letter titled "Dear Birth Mother". Though our precious daughter was referred to us formally through an agency, I wondered what our "Dear Birth Mother" letter would say. So, I've decided to write one.

Dear Birth Mother,

All I know of you is written on one page given to us by our adoption agency. I don't know your name; I don't know what city you live in, when your birthday is or what you do for a living. And I probably never will.

I do know that you had a beautiful 5.5lb baby girl on July 31, 2008 at 6:38pm in a maternity clinic after 40 weeks of pregnancy. I do know that you decided to give her up for adoption and that you named her Seon-Mi.

And for that reason, I will somehow know you for the rest of my life.

First, let me say thank you. It seems as though there would be something better to say to you after giving me your child. Maybe telling you that I am eternally grateful for this very unselfish and brave decision you have made.

I cannot promise you that I will be the world's best mother to Seon-Mi or do everything right. I cannot promise you that she will never be sad or angry, or hurt. I cannot promise you she will never be picked on at school, or that she will be liked by everyone. I cannot promise you that she will be a college graduate, or meet the man of her dreams, or have children of her own.

I cannot promise you that Seon-Mi will never forget you.

What I can promise you is this. I promise to be the best mother I can be to her. I promise to raise her to be kind, polite, respectful and a hard worker. I promise to teach her strong values so that she will make good decisions in her life. I promise to feed, clothe and provide for her. I promise she will get what she needs to become the best person she can be. I promise she will laugh and cry, sing and dance, learn and grow. I promise she will always be dressed cute and have a hair bow and shoes to match!

I promise to love her unconditionally for eternity.

One day, Seon-Mi will ask about you and I will read to her the information that I have. I don't know if it will make her feel better or worse. But I know we both just want her to be happy and if the time comes that she wants to search for you, I will help her. I will also tell her just how brave and courageous you are. I will her how grateful I am to you.

And so, mother to mother, I thank you. May you never regret your decision and may you have the comfort in knowing that Seon-Mi has found her family, and she will always have two mothers."

I wish one day that Zoey's birth mother will be able to read this. And as the second anniversary of the birth of this precious child approaches, I hope she finds peace and comfort as we celebrate Seon-Mi's short, but very full, life so far.

평화가 함께 하시길
Peace be with you.

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

A Second Date...

So I guess technically it wasn't really a date, but it was our second time meeting up with a fellow adoptive family and their perfectly adorable, hopefully our future son-in-law, Henry. :0)

He is a younger man by a few days and as we discovered at this last visit, just an inch or so shorter, but love is unconditional, right?!?! :0)

You might remember their first date back in October went pretty well if you ask me, so it's only appropriate they get together nine months later for a second one. :0)

It certainly had all the characteristics of a second date...

After all, Henry did a haircut first...

Zoey brought an appropriate chaperone...

She even got Henry to pose for some pictures (probably for her Facebook profile, people always want to know who you're dating, right?!?!)

There were a lot of jokes exchanged to relieve some of the nervousness...

There were a few tender moments between the two of them...

Henry was able to point her out in a crowd...

And even complimented her new shoes...

And of course, there was a nice little hug at the date's end!

Should I start making out a guest list or what?!?!?! :0)

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Korean American Mommies

Head on over by clicking here to read my interview with Kathy Choi Lee at!

Join her Facebook group by clicking here to enter a contest, find a mommy play group in your area, share information or ask a question for the moms to answer and connect with other Korean-American mommies!

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Remember this?!?!

I posted this a year ago today and it's so amazing to see how much Zoey has grown! She walks nowhere now...only runs! I think it's pretty funny too that a year later, she still fits in that same outfit and actually wore it yesterday!

We have been busy having crazy fun with my niece and nephews that just moved back into town while their parents get them moved into their house...swimming, bowling, movies, Wii name it, we've done it this past week and and a half!

Family is definitely everything to us and we are definietly part of a great one!

Thursday, July 15, 2010


There's just something about that little girl with the PINK bloom in her hair...

that matches the PINK shirt...

that matches the PINK skirt...

that matches the PINK Crocs...

that matches the PINK nails...

that must eat the PINK popsicle...

that makes the world a better, more pink-a-licious place!

Thursday, July 8, 2010

If Only...

this were possible, it would make my day a whole lot easier, huh?!?!?

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Family, fun and the 4th of July!

There's just something about holiday weekends with family...

that makes everyone happy...

and ready to have fun!

But the 4th of July weekend makes you feel free...

and willing...

to try...


There was no shortage of splash,



and fearlessness!

All here in the land of the free,

And the home of the brave!

(and the sometimes stupid!)

But we were braced for impact and enjoyed every. single. second!

Happy 4th of July!

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Just so you know...

This is how teeny little Korean toddlers plug their nose in the pool because their nostrils are so tiny they can't pinch them...or this is just how my daughter picks her nose. With two fingers. :0)