Saengil Chuhka Hamnida Seon-Mi ah!
3 years ago
"The child was born as a little girl with weight of 2.5kg on July 31, 2008 at 18:38. She is a cute child with clear-cut features. For the better future of the child, the birth mother sincerely hoped to put the child up for adoption. She is promised to grow up as a nice and healthy child if she can be provided with love and concern."
"Lately, to pass the time waiting for baby Zoey to come home, I've read a lot of books. One was book about an open adoption, where the birth mother chose the adoptive family from a profile they viewed through an attorney. In each profile was a letter titled "Dear Birth Mother". Though our precious daughter was referred to us formally through an agency, I wondered what our "Dear Birth Mother" letter would say. So, I've decided to write one.
Dear Birth Mother,
All I know of you is written on one page given to us by our adoption agency. I don't know your name; I don't know what city you live in, when your birthday is or what you do for a living. And I probably never will.
I do know that you had a beautiful 5.5lb baby girl on July 31, 2008 at 6:38pm in a maternity clinic after 40 weeks of pregnancy. I do know that you decided to give her up for adoption and that you named her Seon-Mi.
And for that reason, I will somehow know you for the rest of my life.
First, let me say thank you. It seems as though there would be something better to say to you after giving me your child. Maybe telling you that I am eternally grateful for this very unselfish and brave decision you have made.
I cannot promise you that I will be the world's best mother to Seon-Mi or do everything right. I cannot promise you that she will never be sad or angry, or hurt. I cannot promise you she will never be picked on at school, or that she will be liked by everyone. I cannot promise you that she will be a college graduate, or meet the man of her dreams, or have children of her own.
I cannot promise you that Seon-Mi will never forget you.
What I can promise you is this. I promise to be the best mother I can be to her. I promise to raise her to be kind, polite, respectful and a hard worker. I promise to teach her strong values so that she will make good decisions in her life. I promise to feed, clothe and provide for her. I promise she will get what she needs to become the best person she can be. I promise she will laugh and cry, sing and dance, learn and grow. I promise she will always be dressed cute and have a hair bow and shoes to match!
I promise to love her unconditionally for eternity.
One day, Seon-Mi will ask about you and I will read to her the information that I have. I don't know if it will make her feel better or worse. But I know we both just want her to be happy and if the time comes that she wants to search for you, I will help her. I will also tell her just how brave and courageous you are. I will her how grateful I am to you.
And so, mother to mother, I thank you. May you never regret your decision and may you have the comfort in knowing that Seon-Mi has found her family, and she will always have two mothers."